Do Sri Lankan lower class women ever reach orgasms?
Human sexuality is complicated if you’re a woman, or if you’re a man who wants to please your woman, instead of pleasuring only yourself. Reaching orgasms is easy for men. If you’re ejaculating, that means you’ve reached an orgasm just a second or two ago. For women it’s not that simple. Often times, they might get wet, but won’t reach orgasm if neither they nor their partners know what to do next.
Normal vaginal intercourse is terribly ineffective in giving a woman an orgasm if it’s not done correctly. You can put you 10 inch penis and hump her as if there’s no tomorrow and still she might not have an orgasm if you don’t do it right. Unwanted offsprings? Yes. Female orgasms? No.
If you want to give a woman an orgasm, you’d have to learn. If you’re a woman, you’d have to learn what works for you. Watching a lot of porn isn’t enough. You’d have to read, understand, and practise, just like everything else. How to do vaginal intercourse in such a way that it stimulates the clitoris, how to do oral sex, how to finger and so on. If you haven’t read, most probably you won’t even know what the clitoris is. If you know about the clitoris but still don’t know how to do it properly before trying to stimulate it, you might end up giving her excruciating pain that’d last for hours.
So how do you think you’re going to learn all these stuff? If you’re living in Sri Lanka, you know the libraries can’t help you. So you’d have to turn to the internet. If you’re reading this blog post, then that means you’re having great sex (or would start having great sex after you’ve finished reading this and googled ‘female orgasm’).
But what if you can’t access the internet? What if you can’t comprehend English? What if you don’t even have access to porn? Then you won’t have great sex. Sexual intercourse for you, if you’re a woman, will either be one painful exercise, or a painless yet pointless activity, during which you might be thinking about what to cook for breakfast the following morning. If you’re a man, congratz, you just f*cked a zombie.
This is why sexual education is important. Giving kids some vague knowledge about how and how not to make babies is not enough. Sex isn’t something you do as a service to the human race. It is quite pleasurable if you do it right, so you can make it the purpose of your life. Sadly, those teachers themselves may not know that.
So how to go about this? Due to cultural, political, and religious reasons, we might not be able to give children books to read with titles like ‘How to f*ck like rabbits and keep doing it till your dirty brain melts like ice”. But we can put Kamasutra to the school libraries. That’ll be a start; a small step towards sexual enlightenment.